Has progressed to his terrible two stage already. His new thing to punish me, is to bang his head into the floor...purposely on the hard wood floor..into his forehead crying...hard too. I don't understand it. When he whines for no reason, I guess he just gets bored and bangs his head in the ground...I am a little worried though. Is this normal?!
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I don't want to say it is NORMAL, but I don't think it is that unheard of either. Maybe he is trying to tell you something, but can't get the words out to tell you? I don't know. My nephew went through a phase like this around his age and he outgrew it.
What we do when Eddie throws himself back in a tantrum, is we pick him up and move him somewhere else-distract him.
We do allow him to go through the course of his frustration and tantrum. We don't make him stop the tantrum, but we are just there to make sure he is safe.
It also depends what he is frustrated about. For example, if he starts to go through a lot of things he isn't supposed to: like pushing buttons, or knocking things down from where they are placed, we pick him up, move him some where else and give him an interesting toy to play with. We are guessing he is bored or tired.
Other times, he is playing and it's time for bath. I know that once I remove him for bath time, he is going to cry. So, I start singing his bath song while he is playing. I also, go and turn on the water and sing bath time. Sometimes, even though I do this, he still screams when I pick him up for bath time. But I make him turn into super man and make him fly to the bathroom.
It doesn't work exactly the same each time. We just find ways to get creative to distract him.
Remember, they are intelligent little people, but they are still developing and still can't distinguish that it's not right to hurt themselves. Perhaps, he could be seeking your loving attention.
If I were you, I would just hold him until he calms down. Maybe sing him a soft song. When they are older and can communicate, you can start telling them to stop or else. But for now, if you can't communicate, body language works.
It's going to be one of those trouble shooting situations where you will have to try different methods to see what works. Just make sure not to always handle it the same way. Be sure to be aware that you are responding to it in different methods.
Also, remember that it is not punishment to you. He doesn't do it to get back at you.
Poor little guy. I know your mommy instincts will help you find the best way to handle it! :)
thanks guys--I just feel like he knows I worry about him when he does that so he looks at me crying and doing it expressing, "see what you're making me do!?" lol.
I think he just feels liek I do....we desperately miss daddy. I am trying not to pass my blues onto him, but I know he is affected. He gets bored so easily now, and I am constantly trying to distract or comfort him, but he won't let me just hold him sometimes and he hits or BITES me. He wouldn't stop biting me today.
Funny thing is, when it's bath time at night, he is ready to go, he walks over to the stairs and waits by the gate bouncing (he bounces and says 'ya ya ya ya' when he wants something or is ready for something). He loves the bath routine (and I love when the night finally comes too!) but all day is the problem with him.
It's a hard problem to fix with 2 babies. I did this to myself, and all i can do is get through this time. 9 more months of being a semi-single parent lol.
Parenting is hard work. but im still grateful. :) I recently thought about the fact that I didn't think i was going to be able to be a mom. So much has changed in relatively small time.
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