Another Fun Marriage Survey

John and I took one of these a year ago, and we surprisingly really enjoyed comparing each other's answers and learning more about each other. I was looking for another interesting survey but most of them had some boring/dumb questions like "what's their favorite color?" so I basically gathered the best from a bunch of surveys.
Do them with your spouse--it's good for your relationship I swear!
Samantha's answers John's answers
1.) Do you wish your spouse would be more masculine/feminine?
Yeah, sometimes I want John to be more assertive, and confident. Even arrogant like he used to be in high school! I guess that may have been what attracted me to him.
Feminine.
2.) Have you ever been so mad at your spouse, that you wanted to hit them?
Yes! I did hit him with the remote once..and he bruises easily lol. The only time I've wanted to recently, was when I wake up from a bad dream about him cheating on me! Right when I wake up I want to strangle him. But I don't :)
Yes, that's why we have holes in the headboard and a wall at ourold place.
3.) In comparison to friends and family, rate your marriage 1-10 (10 being the highest):
10--I am really happy in our marriage, and wish I could help others by our example sometimes. Is that snooty?
Can I go higher than 10? Because it is.
4.) What has been one of the better changes you have seen in comparing your spouse before and after getting married?
The respect he learned to show for me, and of course his immediate assumption of financial responsibilities/being responsible for me. Feeling taken care of and protected. United.
Sex!
5.) Is your spouse a good parent?
Yes, and I know we will both make compromises as far as what we want L + O to do/have as they get older. (i.e. chores, tvs/allowance etc) He is sometimes more loving to them than I am...he honestly has a better temper most of the time.
Best mommy ever.
6.) Do you think it's possible to "fall out of love?"
This is hard to answer. I don't want to discount others who say they were in love, and lost it, but as far as I can tell, I will never stop loving John. I think the initial attraction and feelings have to be secured/established with the commitments, sacrifices and shared goals you strive for and attain. Once that groundwork is made, provided it is legitimately worked toward together, I don't think you 'fall out of love.'
Not with that hottie.
7.) What is one of your pet peeve's that your spouse sometimes does?
His touchy-pod sometimes annoys me because I bought it for him to use at work, but that's not too often. hmm.. He started rinsing all his dishes. So I guess maybe the standard clothes not in the hamper. Used to be his constant napping, but he's been better about that too. I like most times when he touches me, but I get annoyed if his nails scratch my jeans...wierd, but it's the "nails on a chalkboard" effect for me.
She always wants to take a bath before we "go to bed"...
8.) In what area is your spouse most demanding?
He is very frugal with money, (so am I) but he would never tell me I can't buy something. So I guess he is most demanding affectionate-wise...and that's not a problem!
My attention.
9.) If you could give them any characteristic what would it be?
Pride in his job, family, and self.
She is perfect the way she is.
10.) Do you think they look best when they try, or when they don't?
When he tries. I don't like when he shaves his head, I like when he fixes his hair, or even when he wears a cap (rarely), I like him without glasses. I haven't seen him dressed up in a while, but he will be interviewing soon, so it will be fun to see him in a suit. His uniform was cute though too...
I like her either way, but when she tries she is phenomenal.
11.) When looking at your finances, how do you feel about your spouse?
Happy and grateful, but I also feel pressure to save more, and guilt when buying frivolous (albeit cheap) things.
She is better at not spending money than I am.
12.) When looking at your finances, how do you think your spouse feels?
he probably feels worried because he is the provider, but also very hopeful and optimistic about what we can do. he's a good financial planner.
Like I know what im doing...?
13.) Do you think your spouse is proud of you?
Yes, and I hope he isn't too scared to tell me if I need to work on something more.
Yeah I'm pretty sure
14.) Name a funny memory you have of a time your spouse really laughed hard?
Okay, I think I already told the one about when I was folding laundry and said 'aw man, my pants shrunk'while holding up Lucas' pants lol..he loved that for some reason, I guess because he wasn't expecting it. But just recently on our road trip home from MA, I was taking pictures in the car. He was telling me he showed a picture of me to a co-worker and they said he "married up", and so I took a really ugly/funny picture and said, 'yeah? well, you should show them this one..' and he almost peed and crashed the car lol...and NO i will not post it...it's really ugly! I hesitated showing it to John, but it was just too funny not to!
I sat on a salad enough said...or when I wanted to thank "a vet" (note-he saw a bumper sticker that said, "enjoy your freedom? thank a vet" and said "why would you thank a veterinarian?" and wasn't joking! I laughed and then said, "wait, you're serious?!"
15.) Would you defend your spouse if criticized?
For sure.
Yeah but I know shethinks I don't or wouldn't...
16.) When is the last time you remember seeing your spouse cry?
wow...been a while. I think when my dad died in 2005, and I asked him to think about if it was his dad.
I thinkit was like a month and half ago, in bed, I held my baby close thatnight.
(hmm...trying to remember what happened?)
17.) In what ways is your spouse typical of their gender?
Sex, sports, hygiene.
Soft features.
18.) In what ways is your spouse atypical of their gender?
he likes latch-hook work lol. He demands Charmin TP. Doesn't care for music/concerts too much. passive-aggressive sometimes...
Huge feet
19.) If your spouse died, do you see yourself remarrying in the future?
don't make me think about it..i don't know how i'd go on living but I would focus on L + O, so no I don't see myself remarrying.
No, I don't think it would happen.
20.) Does your spouse usually fulfill their obligations?
Well, they change since he's out to sea, but he's always provided for us. As far as the manly things like yardwork, repairs, bbq-ing, usually. If he's home long enough.
Except whenshe is in extreme pain.
21.) Do you think they always will?
Yes I do, and I think he will do even more when he gets out of the Navy.
Yes, there is no doubt in my mind...
22.) Do you like surprising your spouse with gifts?
i love to, but mostly with non-monetary thing. Except for the touchy-pod---I actually grew enough balls to drop $200 on it for him without his knowledge, but he was happy!
Yeah, but im ashitty gift giver, Samantha is way better.

I can only speak for myself, but these little separations make me look at our marriage objectively and therefore, feel more in love and appreciative of John. It makes me want to work harder as his wife.
This honest interaction through emailing this survey to each other is an alright substitute for real interaction while he's gone. As John says, I am pretty needy of his attention! Thanks for reading :) And thank you Johnny for your compliments and your honesty----Love, Bigfoot lol.